Writing our ceremony together was one of my favorite parts of the wedding-planning process. It was challenging, especially since I had no idea what a wedding ceremony typically includes outside of the whole “I do” thing. Our notary gave us a basic outline to guide us, but we filled in all of the details. We went through several drafts, but in the end, we were pleased with the outcome. Our ceremony blended tradition with individuality; what we had was uniquely ours.
I decided to include this on the blog because A) some people at the wedding were curious about the quotes we used, and B) maybe it will help future brides come up with something a little out of the ordinary for their own weddings.
Notary: Family and friends, we are gathered here today to witness and celebrate the union of Carly and Kevin. In the four years they have been together, their love and understanding of each other has grown and matured, and they have come to realize that their personal dreams, hopes, and goals are more attainable and more meaningful when shared with each other.
Kevin never thought he would get married. Since childhood, he thought that he was destined to enjoy life alone; he truly believed that if you love something you have to let it go. But I want Kevin and Carly to remember these words from the film Frida:
“Marriage, at its worst, is a hostile political act, a way for small-minded men to keep women in the house and out of the way, wrapped up in the guise of tradition. At best, it’s a happy delusion — these two people who truly love each other and have no idea how truly miserable they are about to make each other. But — but — when two people know that, and they decide with eyes wide open to face each other and get married anyway, then I don’t think it’s conservative or delusional. I think it’s radical and courageous and very romantic.”
We invited a few of our family members to share a quote or brief story that reminded them of us. Kevin’s dad and brother spoke, and my aunt and sister spoke.
Exchange of Vows
We decided to keep this very traditional, since the rest of the ceremony was pretty non-traditional.
Notary: Do you, Kevin/Carly, take Carly/Kevin to be your wife/husband? Do you promise to be true to her/him in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, and do you promise to love and honor her all the days of your life?
Kevin/Carly: I do.
Exchange of Rings
Notary: Your wedding rings symbolize your choice to be bound together. They have no beginning and no end. May they always remind you that the love between you is also infinite, much like Pi, the infinite mathematical constant.
As they exchange their rings, Carly and Kevin would like to share this quote from the book The Amber Spyglass by Philip Pullman.
“I will love you forever, whatever happens. Till I die and after I die. And when I find my way out of the land of the dead, I’ll drift about forever, all my atoms, till I find you again. And when we do find each other again, we’ll cling together so tightly that nothing and no one will ever tear us apart. Every atom of me and every atom of you. And when they use our atoms to make new lives, they won’t just be able to take one; they’ll have to take two: one of you and one of me.”
Notary: By the virtue of the authority vested in me under the laws of the State of Florida, I now pronounce you husband and wife. You may now kiss.
We kissed. 🙂
We walked out to “Dissolve Me” by Alt-J, one of our favorite songs by one of our favorite bands.